4 Stupid Things We Do When Meeting Girls
(And how to fix them)

It's a miracle any of us get laid or find girlfriends.

Talk with a pick-up artist or sex expert long enough and—once they get past their spiel—they'll tell you the truth: most guys have more luck with online poker than they do with women. (So the next time you tell me about your full house and fooling around with two pair, I'll see right through your bullshit, buddy.)

And it's not just the over-confident frat boys and World of Warcraft types that aren't getting any play. It's all of us. Just ask relationship coach Jamie Thompson.

"Most guys are pussies. They live in a shell and don't know how to interact. They're not entertaining, engaging, or interesting."

Ouch.

I put my hurt feelings aside and asked Thompson and Dana Carney, PhD, to identify and solve four common mistakes we all make when trying to meet girls.

1. You don't look for "approach invitations."

According to Carney, people send non-verbal signals back and forth to show things like dominance, security, and sexual interest. We just don't pay any attention.

Where does your money go?
 

$100 for a pair of jeans. $150 for a pair of shoes. $210.00 on a steak and lobster dinner. $60.00 for a round of drinks. $250.00 per week for groceries for two.

What kind of idiot is blowing that kind of money?

Well, honestly, this idiot is.

Why? Because I like living simply and enjoying the "small" things.

Wait a minute! What kind of shifty contradiction is that, Nate? How is spending hundreds of dollars on stuff like that living simply?

Feel Unstoppable, Grow Bigger Muscles, and Learn to Relax

It was small stuff at first.

I'd put on mismatched socks in the morning, start to pour orange juice into my oatmeal instead of milk, or fall asleep for two-tenths of a second before snapping my head up, the mini-whiplash move we all used to do when our moms woke us up way too early for school.

A few bad nights of sleep, I thought. Nothing to worry about.

But after a few weeks it became obvious I wasn't sleeping well at all, as my energy levels plummeted. My girlfriend would walk into the office and I'd be sitting at my desk with a just-smoked-a-huge-joint expression, staring into space.

"What are you looking at?" she'd ask. "And why are you wearing my socks?"

My writing was suffering, my workouts were lackluster, and my libido – my girlfriend told me – resembled that of a "sad old man." 

You've got protein, a multivitamin, fish oil, and a post-workout drink. But what other supplements should you take?